Scott & Sunny

Scott & Sunny

Monday, June 9, 2008

We've had many staggering blows in our household over the last 18 months. Today found us with another, on a scale I can't describe. There is no easy way to say this, but Derry and Scott's father - Calum - has passed away in Scotland.

I can't explain the sadness in their faces, nor that in Stephanie's. Just because two people were divorced doesn't mean they hate each other. Calum was the boy's father, and such a loss I can't even begin to imagine. Scott is very weepy and emotional. Derry, as always, is keeping things bottled up and this bothers Stephanie and I.

I simply do not know how to explain such a thing to the boys. At the age of 42 I'm lucky to have not lost a parent. As you know, Stephanie just lost her dad 6 months ago as well. We don't know how a child at 11 or 13 copes with this mentally. It's unchartered territory on all fronts.

Mentally, we are all simply exhausted. Beaten down. That's all I can write tonight. Bed awaits us all.

15 comments:

April_Molle said...

Stephanie, David, Scott, & Derry!

I am so incredibly sorry to read this news! My heart and prayers are with you guys! Please take care of yourselves and know that we care for you guys and are so saddened by this! Our thoughts are with you! I feel so badly for Derry and Scott! I cannot imagine losing a parent at such a young age! I am so sorry!!

Sending you all many cyber hugs!!!!!!!

April Molle

Dawn said...

Nana has asked me to write this message from her:

Stephanie,
I want you to know I'm sending you all my love and thinking and praying for the whole family at such a terrible time. I'm so thankful you have David with you who understands the situation and will love and care for all three of you as you grieve in your own ways. You and David are so strong you will help Derry and Scott through this situation and show them all the love they need. Please give them both a very big hug from Grand-Nana.

Dawn said...

Stephanie,
All I can say is dito to Nana's comments. I am really so sad to hear what has happened. I'm so glad you're all together as a family with David to love you all. Take strength from each other, as you always do. I'm thinking and praying for you all too - I know it may not be your way to do things but I hope it brings you some comfort and peace of mind.
With my love,
Dawn.

Mary Lynn said...

I am so sad to hear the news. It is very hard to lose someone you love so deeply. My heart goes out to all of you. Stephanie, anytime you want to call or go for coffee just call me. I am free anytime.

Thnking of you often,

Mary Lynn
www.caringbridge.org/visit/sierrakesler

Sherry said...

I am heartbroken for all of you. Sending prayers for peace and comfort in this unimaginable circumstance.

Love,
Sherry

nina said...

I am so sorry about the loss of derry & scott's father. I know all too well the pain your family is feeling. There are prayers for everyone coming from me and my boys.
Stay strong in the face of all these odds.

Laura said...

I am so sad to hear such heartbreaking news. I am thinking of you all and saying prayers too. I can't imagine how you deal with something like this, nor can I imagine being so young and having to try and comprehend something like losing a parent.
Sending love and support to one and all, Angel Laura

Staci said...

We are so sorry to read about Scott and Derry's dad. We will be keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. Sending warm hugs across the miles. Love, David and Staci

Natalie Willis said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. I will be sending prayers of comfort and peace to you all.
Love,
Natalie
www.believeinmandy.blogspot.com

Grandmama said...

Stephanie,David ,Scott & Derry
We are so sorry to hear about Scott & Derry's Dad.
I really do not know what to say. It will be so hard on the boys.Losing their Dad at such a young age. It is hard enough when you are a grown up.
But they have a wonderful Mom & Stepdad to help them deal with it .Our Love and Prayers are with all of you. Give each other a big hug for us.
Love
Grandmama & Papa [Mom & Pop]

Kristy said...

There's got to be a limit on how much heartache one family can take in a lifetime, much less in the span of 18 months. My thoughts/prayers go out to y'all.

Sandie said...

Oh Stephanie - I simply don't know what to say. I'm so sorry for you and for Scott and Derry. So well said that there ought to be a limit on heartache. I know that David will take good care of you. And I know you and David will take good care of the boys. I suppose underneath it all, that's the best any of us can hope for - to be surrounded by love no matter what.

My love to you
S.

April_Molle said...

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you guys!

HUGS!!!!

April Molle

Anissa Mayhew said...

I hadn't had a chance to read your update and when I saw David tonight I was just stunned to find out what an awful blow you'd been dealt. I'm so sorry for the loss of this special person in your lives. I'm praying for you all, but especially those boys of yours who are suffering through more loss than anyone should have.

I'm here anytime, I'm going to call you tomorrow and see what way we can help.

Much love,
Anissa
www.hope4peyton.org

Joanne said...

Hi Scott & Stephanie - After seeing you at clinic today, I have not stopped thinking about you. You were both so upset - as I finally got the kids to bed tonight, I logged on to see what is going on. I have not been checking up on all our friends lately and was obviously very concerned about you. I am so truly sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and please know how much you are loved and cared for by so many.
Love always,
Joanne (Sam's mom)